Okay, so I've gotten some feedback and I think Carol's email would encourage you. I hope it does, its encouraged me. And I think its important to share, so with her permission the dialogue continues.
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Thanks for the blog posting. It seems like this could be an on-going topic. I need to add a little to the conversation to make myself feel better.
We talked so much about punishment and I know we needed to because those were the questions that were asked. But so much of discipline is training which is--like you said in your post--coming along side your kids to teach them.
They need to learn to help mommy. They need to learn to love their siblings by playing with them and sharing. Those things happen when you are there working it all out with them--modeling the behavior that you want them to mimic.
And don't forget to have the "conversation" often. "Why do we treat Sister this way?" Why do we pick up when Daddy says it's time?" Those conversations turn into "This is a great, tangible way to love your friend. It honors God" and "It's hard to do what's right, but you did such a great job when you...."
Somehow you have to get ahold of their little hearts. It might be through Family Fun Days, or through stories shared, or even through getting through a rough patch together, but you NEVER want to lose it. If you lose the ability to speak truth into your child's life, you have lost too much. It's difficult to earn back the trust. And hopefully we can talk about that the next time we get together.
I hope I haven't said too much. I encourage you to study your children. They will love you for it and you will find the best way to love them, train them, encourage them, and (even though it's no fun) punish them.
Love you all,
Carol Loumagne
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